Now, if you read the title of this and automatically thought “Well what about being dark skinned?” I get it, or at least I think I do. However, I’m choosing to speak from personal experience, and since I’m not dark skinned I don’t feel it’s my place to speak for the experience of those that are. However, if you are dark skinned and would like to share your opinion or personal experiences with colorism I am more than happy to hear you out because I seek a greater understanding of the experiences I may not share. Understanding is the gateway to connection.
I have a confession to make. When I was younger, I’m pretty sure I was as my mother would call it, “color struck”. I’m not quite sure how it happened but I have a pretty good idea. I was about five or six and best friends with two other light skinned little girls. I’ve always had a bit of a mean girl mentality; it’s something I still struggle against today. I have no idea where the desire to be cruel comes from but it sort of just bubbles up inside of me and then spills out like a poison or virus, infecting everyone around me. Anyway, there was a little brown skinned girl named Ebony. I would pick at her, We would pick at her. Tell her how dark she was, make fun of her hair. We were a bunch of nasty little brats. Looking back, I can’t possibly imagine the woman I am now being that horrible little girl, but I find it’s often easy to forget things we don’t want to remember.
Firstly, Ebony, I am sorry. I am sorry to every beautiful black little girl who has ever had to endure a mean little girl like me.
At five years old did I really know what I was doing? Maybe, maybe not, but since I continued to do it, if I didn’t know originally, I’m certain I was beginning to. Looking back it seems like one side of the spectrum was being glorified and the other side was being vilified. I remember being dotted on. I remember people always wanting to play in my hair. I remember my mother being stopped in the beauty supply store by someone wanting to know what I was mixed with. I remember her banning my family from buying white dolls because she wanted me to understand that my light skin didn’t stop me from being black. I remember getting to elementary school and getting picked at by a group of dark skinned girls and then somehow feeling justified in my disdain for black skin. Like what I had previously done to Ebony was somehow warranted because given the chance the darker girls would pick on me too. I remember feeling like it was Us Vs Them.
Us Vs Them. What kind of shit is that? How do we get so wrapped up in light versus dark? For no good reason we constantly fall prey to indoctrination that goes back generations. Not only is it absurd, it’s embarrassing.
I am ashamed of the little girl I used to be. I cringe Everytime I see someone making the same foolish statements that I did. As I age I continue to feel guilty about the comfort I took in being lighter. It’s as if the world around me was screaming White may be right but Light is still safe. I didn’t understand that a system of oppression doesn’t care that I am light skinned and Ebony is dark skinned. I didn’t understand that by speaking against her, I was speaking against myself. I didn’t understand that I was betraying the people that fought, and died for me to be here.
I didn’t know that Ebony and I were just Us, not Us Vs Them.
It wasn’t until I had a come to Jesus moment that I realized I had been separating myself from my allies. I was at war with my own race, and all because it made me feel special.
At least it did until a little white girl on the playground called me and the other little black girl I was picking at “Niggers”. All of a sudden, I no longer cared about Light and Dark. We were both black.
Who doesn’t love to shop? Personally, I find it very therapeutic. As a plus size woman I’m constantly on the hunt for clothes that fit comfortably and look good on me (as I’m sure most women are in general). That can be iffy sometimes though. You’ll find a place and they’ll have a plus size section but the models they use are like a size 6. There’s nothing wrong with being a size 6 but it’s quite a stark contrast to being a size 16. Then it’s all about guess work. “It works for her, but will it work for me?”
So, I wanna eliminate some of that guess work, one haul at a time.
I just happened to be shopping online with the Walmart app when I stumbled across the plus size clothing section. First things I noticed were the prices! Their stuff is incredibly inexpensive! And while I’ve purchased the occasional clothing item in their store, the online shop has Way more to offer.
Now let’s get to it! Over all I purchased six pieces and paid around $43.50. It took about two to three days for me to get everything so it was surprisingly quick shipping. I received a total of 3 separate packages.
It’s meh, I mean it’s a t-shirt. It’s fine it’s just that I prefer my tees a little looser. It’s a cotton and polyester blend so it’s fairly comfortable.
Also, I’m not fond of the fit around the collar. See that extra bit of fabric just off to the side? What is that?
For some reason I like this one a Whole lot better than the V-NECK. Maybe it’s the color. Also it seems a bit looser but that could just be my bias towards it. It’s also a cotton polyester blend.
Plus, there’s no extra fabric around the neck and shoulders so it actually fits right!
Now I actually like this! The bodice is solid black with a lace overlay. It’s 100% polyester. A bit of shapewear and it’s golden. I’ll have to wear tights with it though because it’s not fitted around the thighs and I have a pretty round butt. One wrong move and it’s a peep show!
There’s also a Lot of cleaveage so if you’re not comfortable putting your girls on display then maybe skip this one, or you could get it and pin it.
Omg this top has a lot going on but I absolutely love it! It’s a polyester, rayon, and spandex mix. It’s so comfortable!
I love the plunging neckline with straps across the cleaveage. I just love this!
The only downside is the little bit of extra room around the neck, but it makes sense for it to be there.
Welp, I hate it. Bear in mind I’m not wearing any shape wear. Maybe I’m just not there yet because it makes me feel like a big shiny blob. Oh yea, it’s a polyester and spandex mix.
I hate the shoulder and neck line the most. See how it’s hanging off my shoulders? It’s not supposed to do that!
You can even tell it’s wrong by looking at how far down my arm the shoulder seam is?! Just…No.
These jeans have been the Highlight of this haul. I am literally in love with them! They’re so comfortable and they fit so well!
To wrap all this up, I’m pretty pleased. Some of the stuff wasn’t my favorite (looking at you silver garbage bag), but Walmart has an amazing return policy. I got a refund and I got to keep what I returned all because I didn’t like it!
I’ll definitely be doing another haul from them in the future. What other store do you want me to haul?
What’s you’re favorite club scene? Do you like to rave? Love a good dance hall? Personally, I’m a jazz club kind of girl. Give me some low lighting and a little smooth music and I am prepared to vibe the night away.
Bearing in mind that I’m no makeup artist or beauty guru I went for a look that would be good for a jazzy scene (pun intended). I did a gold and deep blue lid with a copper lip. It reads vibrant without stepping out of theme.
NYX Proof It! Eye primer
Make-up Revolution Salvation Palettes in Welcome to the Pleasuredome and Unicorns Unite
Starlooks Artist Eyeliner
Pür Cosmetics lashes in Bombshell
AOA Studio’s Perfecting Blur Primer
AOA Studio’s Wonder Cover HD Concealer in Lavender
Cargo Cosmetics One Base Foundation in C04
Broadway Colors Powder Cheek Palette Kit in Summer
BeBe Strobe Palette from the Vanity Box Collection (specifically the shade Lilac Dreams
Trifle Cosmetics Sponge Bronzer
AOA Studio’s Wonder Metal Liquid Lipsticks in Truffle and OMG
I hope you guys enjoyed this look and let me know if there’s any others you want me to try!
I received this for free in an Influenster Shimmer Vox Box to review. My first thought was “Um…I’ll pass”. To be honest I was looking back to the 90’s when Lee Press Ons were all the rage. The only problem was they lasted like a good 45 minutes before they started popping off. Nevertheless, I decided to give these a try and I am So glad I did.
Application was pretty easy. Just peel and stick. Apparently the harder you press the more they last. I’m gonna be honest, I was taken aback by how neat and professional they look.
When I wore them to work I actually got a lot of compliments. Many of my coworkers actually get their nails done and they All thought I had done the same. No one believed they were actually press Ons.
As far as lasting power, they’re pretty good. I got this set to last five days! What I really like is that they come with extra nails so if a nail pops off you can put one on in it’s place. 💖🥀I only had a nail pop off on the third day🥀💖.
All in all, I’m pretty impressed with these Impress Gel nails. In fact I’m so impressed that I’m currently wearing a new set in ‘Bells and Whistles’. I’ve also been looking into more press on nails.
I’m so ecstatic because this has opened up a whole new world for me and I love discovering new things to love.
So, let’s be real. Boxycharm has taken over the beauty world by force. They’ve gone from an occasional sweet surprise to a beauty enthusiast must have. Seriously! The Boxycharm comment section is like the beauty community hunger games!
One thing that’s happening more and more often is a select few being exiled to the Waitlist. Before we talk about why this is, let’s get through a few quick facts about Boxycharm.
Boxycharm is a monthly beauty subscription box.
They give 4-5 full size beauty products for $21.00.
They’ve worked with big brands like Tarte and Ofra.
Now let’s talk about this wait list business. I’ve noticed a pattern here. Boxycharm has a wait list more than a mile long, yet they constantly get new subscribers. You’re probably thinking that the people who have been on the list the longest are finally able to enter the beauty promised land, but that’s not necessarily the case. It seems like a first come first serve kind of deal. While most months people are riding the wailist, every once in a while Boxycharm sneaks in a no Waitlist for a limited time only kind of thingum (fair warning: thingum is not a word, but I have officially adapted into this blog’s vernacular because I like saying and typing it.)
For example, this month, (currently) the wait list is lifted. While this is great news, there are people who probably have no idea and will continue to be on the outside looking in. It’s interesting that Boxycharm chooses to make this known in the comments but there’s no post or specific notification of this publicly. I have a theory on that later in this post.
It’s the same deal a few weeks ago. Another comment from Boxycharm saying the Waitlist is over temporarily.
Suddenly, the Waitlist was back in action and left quite a few people stranded on the ex-isle (get it? Exile isle??? Hah! 😂😁😂😅).
Essentially all Boxycharm had to offer was an Oops! Our Bad! This Again took place in the comment section.
Now I’ve got two working theories on why Boxycharm could remove a Waitlist and suddenly make it reappear like a magic trick.
Let’s work on the idea that Boxycharm has to give brands a number that corresponds with the amount of product they need. So if they have 300 subscribers, they tell a brand (we’ll use Ofra as an example), “Ofra, we need 300 items to fulfill our orders”. Now, if you didn’t know, it’s usually cheaper to make and manufacture an item than the item is sold for. This is typically a markup scenario. So let’s say Ofra is feeling generous. They send Boxycharm 320 products. That leaves Boxycharm with a surplus of 20 extra products. Boxycharm can then simply request 20 more products from other brands in that month’s box (that is If the other brands haven’t sent them extra already. Something tells me they get extras quite a bit). Now, they really only have to focus on getting 20 extras from the major brands (the ones they do sneak peaks for). The other two can be toss ups of whatever extra products they have hanging around in the warehouse. 🥀 Boxycharm has a charmer store and they could basically add to these 20 extra boxes whatever isn’t selling in that store to fill them out🥀. Basically this all boils down to Boxycharm selling off their extra products by temporarily removing the Waitlist. Once they’re out of extras the Waitlist comes back and they just request more products the following month to make up for the new additions. So the next month instead of telling Ofra they need 300 products, they would say they need 320. This could explain why they don’t make the removal of the Waitlist overtly known. They would already have a limited amount on hand.
Now, going back to that Charmer shop. Let’s say Boxycharm does really well in sales. They sell a lot of products in the shop and earn some extra income. Now let’s also say they pay the brands that are featured in their boxes a commission.For arguments sake let’s say it’s like 8-10¢ on every dollar for the box the product is in and if the brand has products in the charm shop, like a 15-20% commission on sales. This doesn’t seem like a lot but I’m betting Boxycharm has more than enough subscribers to make that worth it to brands. So let’s say they do incredible in sales. The more money they make the more revenue they can divert into extra manpower and product for more boxes. Once that extra income that’s alloted to the boxes is used up, Boxycharm puts the Waitlist back into effect.
Keep in mind these are only working theories. I have no inside knowledge of the way Boxycharm is running their business and can only speculate. Also, I am in No way shape or form, trying to intentionally portray Boxycharm in a bad light. I have been a Loyal customer since December of 2016. I’m just hoping to help people wrap their heads around the Waitlist and Hopefully provide some insight for those of you who may be wondering what’s going on. All of that being said, I wanna know if you have any ideas about this Waitlist brouhaha (this is in fact a word and also officially apart of this blog’s vernacular). Share your theories in the comments. Do you think I was spot on? Am I just making something out of nothing?
I used to think all shampoos and conditioners were created equal. Honestly, to me they were all the same with different smells. It turns out I was wrong. There is definitely a healthy hair hierarchy in play here. In this post I’m going to go over some samples I received for review purposes and give you my thoughts. First, let’s learn a little bit more about Monat:
The brand got its start in 2014 and has taken off with the help of Market Partners and VIP Customers (we’ll get more into that at the end of this post).
The brand’s products are paraben and sulfate free.
Monat recently teamed up with the Salvation Army to help give back to children in the U.S and Canada.
Now let’s get down and dirty.
I was sent these products by the lovely Dee to review.
💇🏾♀️ I’ll have Dee’s contact info at the end of this post should you wish to learn more about Monat or it’s VIP Customer Program💇🏾♀️
While my hair is naturally kinky/curly, shampoos tend to somehow straighten it out. It’s like they have so much crap in them that they way my hair down. Even though the Revitalize Shampoo was not particularly spectacular, it did allow my hair to keep its wild child texture which I Love. I was so happy to feel my hair and see it all curled up because that rarely happens. Whatever is, or isn’t, in this shampoo helps hair to maintain it’s texture which I call a curly girl plus.
The Conditioner was amazing. When I squeezed it out of the packet it came out almost like a fluff. It was creamy and left my hair feeling Super soft. In fact it’s so soft I’m constantly touching it. While the Shampoo was nice, the Conditioner was wonderful!
My hair officially feels like a fleece blanket, a cup of cocoa with cinnamon and marshmallows, and a good book on a snowy day. My hair texture is as wild child as ever, and the products managed to avoid stripping my hair color. There is certainly something to these products and I’m interested in trying more, or at the very least snagging that Conditioner.
Now let’s chitchat about Monat and their programs.
So it seems like being a VIP has certain benefits. You receive things like free shipping, 15% off of Monat products, free samples, and even birthday goodies. This sounds pretty good, especially when you think about how expensive the products are. That Conditioner I officially need in my life? Yea, that’s $40.00. That’s a little steep. Being a VIP comes with a few caveats. In order to get those benefits, you have to agree to three flexship orders. You also have to pay a membership fee. The fee is $19.99 USD and $24.95 CAD. If you think about it, it’s a one time fee and if you buy three products with that sweet little discount, you’ve already covered the cost of the membership with the coin you save. The flexship orders are kind of like a monthly hair subscription box. For a certain amount each month (what I’m seeing is $84.00 USD and $110.00 CAD) you’ll get the discount, access to limited edition products, as well as a free product. In all honesty, two monat products are going to run you $80.00 so it might be a little more cost effective to be a VIP, especially since they’re coming out with new products (they just released and brow and Lash serum in March with a pretty price tag). They also seem to let you skip every other month if the price tag is still a little too much. Overall the program makes sense for fans of the brand.
It seems like Monat is a MLM. Think Lipsense, or Lula Roe, or Limelight by Alcone. It’s kind of like the sleek, modern version of the Avon Lady, except the Monat Lady more than likely has great hair. If you’re interested in this sort of thing, I’d say Monat is definitely worth checking out. They do have a pretty high commission rate. 20% is about average for these kinds of “be your own boss” businesses. I can’t really speak to the nature of these kinds of programs because I’ve never really been into sales, (I’m too nonchalant about the word ‘No’ and in this kind of game persistence is key) and consequently, have never really looked into MLMs. I’m sure Dee has a few answers though 😋.
To wrap it up, I’m pretty intrigued by the brand. Personally I’m more concerned with the products than the business aspect, but that’s just my style. The Conditioner and that Lash serum are definitely calling my name.
💇🏾♀️If you’re curious about Monat or it’s programs, you can get in touch with Dee! Email: email@example.com Website: mymonat.com/mermaidsquad 💇🏾♀️
I’m a pretty big fan of Ulta mascaras. For some reason I always love them and I’m building up quite the little collection of them. I picked this up for $10.50.
The wand is rubber which is normal for Ulta mascaras. I love how it has big splits between the bristles because that’s perfect for separating Lashes.
I definitely love the way this mascara works. Because of the wand it’s like each Lash gets special treatment.
I saw some reviews that said it flakes off but in all honesty, that’s never happened to me. But, just because it hasn’t happened to me, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen to them, so maybe that’s something to think about before purchasing.
As always, Ulta didn’t disappoint. What do you think? Am I lashy?
Eyeshadow palettes have become my new makeup obsession and every time I find one worthwhile I get So excited to share it with you guys. 🥀Fair Warning: There will be a Lot of eyeshadow palette reviews in the near future. I hope you all are as excited as I am about that!🥀
It’s the Icon palette in ‘Exposed’. Since they have more than one Icon palette it would make since to have the names on the packaging to differentiate (they dropped the ball on that). Of course this palette looks just like the original Naked palette. To be honest, I didn’t notice it until I got it home and opened it up again. I paid $6.99 for it at Burlington though the regular price is $14.99. This palette, and all of the other icon palettes can be found at www.absolutenewyork.com.
Oddly enough, I wasn’t drawn to the original Naked palette but for some reason I was Very drawn to this one. I have no idea what that could be about.
If you’ve read my Tarte Dream Big Palette review, then you already know that I’ve started putting Vaseline under my eyes because it catches any fall out, and also makes it more visible on camera.
While this palette didn’t have a lot of fallout, when you look at the outer corners of my eyes you can definitely see some.
I honestly really enjoy this palette. All of the shades are soft and pigmented. They also blend wonderfully. Now I’ve never tried the original Naked so unfortunately I can’t speak to if this is a successful dupe quality wise, but this is a solid palette and definitely worth giving a go.